Like a Butterfly Erika Lust XConfessions

Come on Barbie, Let’s Go Party: Sexy Ways to Channel Your Inner Barbie

male and female dolls lying on one another channeling their inner barbie

We may be long past our days of playing with plastic dolls (or not, we don’t judge here) but if you’ve been anywhere these last few months, you’ve definitely seen and heard all about Greta Gerwig’s Barbie movie starring Margot Robbie and Ryan Gosling. I can’t lie–I’m stoked about seeing it and it’s really made me want to channel my inner Barbie. Like most folks with a vulva, I had tons of Barbie dolls growing up, they were one of my favorite toys, though I’ll admit, most of the time I spent playing with them was a lesson in sexuality more than traditional doll play. My Barbie’s were all lesbians or at least bisexual haha. Sorry not sorry Ken.

These days, I am an avid collector of toys of a different variety and while I don’t yet live in my Malibu Dreamhouse, a large number of them are pink! As a sex toy reviewer, pink begins to become a color you see way too often, but when you’re living in a Barbie world, that might not be such a bad thing.

How to Channel Your Inner Barbie in Sexy Ways This Summer

fun factory pink volta sex toy

Fun Factory has you covered. Whether you like to play solo or coupled with your favorite Ken, the Volta is one of their hottest toys and yes, it even comes in hot hot pink. Volta is typically known for being an external clitoral toy, but you can switch things up and use it while giving a blow job! Just add some water-based lubricant between the tips, slide it up and down your Ken’s shaft, and focus your attention on the head.

Volta’s tapping tips make vibrations stronger, which boosts arousal and heightens sensitivity. When playing solo, you can spread those tips and press one against your clit while using the other against your vaginal opening, or press them both anywhere you’d like. Go from wild percussion to classic vibration–the patterns are customizable and totally up to you. Your inner Barbie gets to choose wild to mild, girl.

fun factory pink diva sex toy

Dolphins are the epitome of cute, so what better way to channel your inner Barbie than with the Fun Factory Diva Dolphin G-Spot vibrator? This cute vibrator is made even better by the fact that it’s battery powered–did someone say girl’s trip? It boasts the most powerful battery vibration out there, so let that inner diva roar and explore! She’s perfect for any way you want to explore, from penetration to pinpoint external stimulation–offering what you have come to expect from Fun Factory, deep rumbling vibrations. Unlike many battery-powered toys, Diva Dolphin keeps the same level of power right until it runs out of juice.  You can also upgrade with their Hybrid Kit to charge rechargeable batteries inside the toy.

fun factory sharevibe pink sex toy

Sharing really is caring, especially when you’re talking about the Fun Factory Sharevibe in hot pink, complete with a bullet in the bulb. This wearable, vibrating double dildo lets you and your partner get very, very close. Its shorter bulb is designed for G-spot massage and a feeling of deep fullness; just lube it up, slip it in, and get ready to be richly rewarded for giving your partner the business. Even better, the ridge at the base rests against the clit, giving you friction and vibration exactly where you want it. Meanwhile, the receiver gets a smooth, slim shaft with a gentle curve that makes G-spot or prostate play a cinch. Hmmm we always knew Ken was into pegging, didn’t we? Maybe he’s gonna channel his inner Barbie this summer!

fun factory bootie fem sex toy

We can’t let Ken have all the bootie fun–The Fun Factory Bootie Fem is specially designed for a woman’s behind. This comfy, beginner butt plug was designed for vulva owners to wear during PIV sex. Bootie Fem has an asymmetrical base, so it doesn’t block the vaginal opening. Plus, the tulip tip was cleverly designed to add pressure near the G-spot, giving the strap-on or penis a thrilling squeeze.

Let’s Get Visual With Our Inner Barbie

Erika Lust is my favorite pornographer. Her films seem to jump off the screen with stunning color, stories, and scenes that make you feel as if you’re watching a regular movie–but much sexier.

Milkshake is a fantasy fiction movie, DRIPPING in nostalgia. With the 70’s aesthetic to the setting of an old-school diner, Milkshake leaves taste buds tingling. Director Charis Uster tells a story of a girl who has always dreamed of having a threesome with two men, as she takes a sip of her sweet milkshake – she finally gets to taste her dream. Her milkshake really DID bring the boys to the yard…

Become a Barbie girl, in a Barbie world. Indie adult director Maximus Skaff is back with a conceptual short film accompanied by a poem. Delve into the cotton candy dream world that is ‘Like A Butterfly’, where queer sex dreams come true. Like A Butterfly is a trans love story that shows the transition, similar to how a beautiful butterfly transforms from a cocoon.

No matter how you choose to channel your inner Barbie, I’m sure you’ll have a blast. If you’re like me, you now have the Aqua song stuck in your head, so you’re welcome. Be sure to check out the new film, coming to theaters July 21st, or wait until it’s available digitally (that’s my plan!) but most of all, live out loud, have tons of orgasms, and “Always leave things better than you found them.”

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This Romance Book Subscription Box Brings More Than Words

Melissa Saavedra, CEO of The Steam Box image used with permission

Subscription box, we all the term now–they’ve been around for a number of years and at this point, you can get most anything you desire within a little (or large) cardboard box delivered right to your door. Since the pandemic began, people have relied on them to diversify their palates, whether that be food or fashion, and now, even with books and sexual wellness items. Why not couple the two?

Melissa Saavedra is the Latina founder of Steamy Lit, a romance book and sexual wellness subscription box service which offers recipients a vibrator and a selection of self-care items to enjoy along with their steamy novels. Don’t worry, if you’re not interested in receiving a toy, you can choose a box that doesn’t have one.

A US Navy veteran, Melissa launched the inclusive product, to not only open the lines of communication around sexual wellness but to also diversify readers book shelves by amplifying the voices of authors who have been historically underrepresented in the publishing world. In particular female authors, people of colors and authors from the LGBTQ+ community.

How Does The Steam Box Subscription Box Work?

Every quarter, your box is curated with three to four books for that season, plus three or four items from women-owned small businesses, and vibes/sexual wellness items. Not everything comes at once. Your first box contains one book, your items from the small businesses, and your vibe/wellness items. Your other books will follow every two months so you never run out of steamy content!

Subscription Boxes Available

Annual–Boxes for all four quarters. These are full boxes, products, books, and vibes.

Semi-annual-– Boxes for two quarters. These are full boxes, products, books, and vibes.

Quarterly— You can choose a book only subscription (just the books). No Vibes (only books and products). Full box (books, products, and vibes)

They also have merch! Personally, I love some of the t-shirts and I really want to get this one:

From The Steam Box Merch Shop

Quarterly boxes begin at $55 USD every three months

Image by author

The box I received is the Latine/x Romance Special Edition Box. It contains three books, Love Me, Maddie Mendoza by Amy Oliveria; The Sunset Job by Max Walker; and On the Hustle by Adriana Herrerra with a special NSFW vellum exclusive insert. It also included Candle from Heka Remedies, Concha bath bomb from Loquita Bath and Body, Passion fruit lotion bar from Pachamama Is Mother Earth, Vibe and lube from Maude, and Bookmark from Fandom Sleeves. This special edition box is still available and is currently on sale for $99 USD.

5 percent of each box is donated to Latinx in Publishing, an organization committed to supporting and increasing the number of Latinx people that work in publishing, and promoting literature by, for, and about Latinx people.

You can check out my reel on Instagram where I show you each item.

I love that Steamy Lit is a woman owned business and their attention to detail. The box arrived quickly and is full of items I will actually use. The candle smells delicious, the lotion bar feels divine on my skin, and I can’t wait for an opportunity to use the bath bomb. In the past when I’ve tried other sexual wellness subscription boxes, I found a lot of them to be cheap feeling. The “extra” items were not well made, and felt like something you’d find in a crackerjack box if you catch my drift.

They reminded me of the old-school toys you’d get from seedy sex toy shops back in the day, when everything took AAA batteries and died after you used them once. ABS plastic and just not decent quality. If you got any other perks, they felt like they came from Dollar Tree.

It just wasn’t the quality I expected from a subscription box service when I was paying decent money.

With Steamy Lit, I feel like I am getting more than my money’s worth. These are full size products, the vibe is a brand I know and trust, and let’s be frank, I’m not afraid to use it or the amazing self-care products that have been included. And that bookmark? How cute is that?

**This is a sponsored post. I was provided this subscription box in exchange for an honest review. Thank you to Steamy Lit for providing this box and a quality product and service. This article contains affiliate links, so if you decide to treat yourself while shopping, I may earn a small commission. To learn more, get in contact with me here.